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  • The Starting Place
    • Calling
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    • Stewardship
  • The Nesting Place
  • The Established Place
  • The Dwelling Place
  • Engage
    • Consulting
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    • Community
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THE NESTING PLACE

Where safety is stabilized

"He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart." — Psalm 91:4


The Nesting Place is the starting point for a faith-based, trauma-informed approach to leadership. It was created to meet a need that is often overlooked. Many systems begin with expectations or structure, assuming safety is already in place. For a child who has experienced trauma, that foundation is missing. This phase exists because nothing else can grow without safety. Not structure. Not correction. Not growth.

Why this stage is needed

This stage was shaped by what was missing. Expectations came before safety. Correction was offered before trust was built. Structure was set before the child was ready. The result was resistance and environments that could not hold. It became clear that behavior is not the place to begin. Safety comes first.

What the child is experiencing

A child who has lived through trauma does not respond from logic. They respond from what they have known. If safety has been uncertain, they expect it to shift. If care has been unreliable, they test it. If trust has been broken, they hold it back. This is seen in how they attach. Some children move close, hoping to secure connection. Others pull away to protect themselves. Some do both. None of this is random. It is the child searching for safety.

How safety begins to develop

The child watches

The child begins to settle

The child watches

In these moments, they are looking for consistency before they are ready to seek connection.

The child tests

The child begins to settle

The child watches

They test what is in front of them to see if it will hold steady.

The child begins to settle

The child begins to settle

The child begins to settle

Their responses begin to slow. The urgency that was once present starts to ease.

The child begins to trust

The child begins to settle

The child begins to settle

Safety is not questioned in the same way, even if it is not yet fully secure.

How this prepares for leadership

A child cannot learn leadership from a place of survival.

Most leadership models begin with the idea that secure attachment is already there. They expect the child to regulate, to receive instruction, and to trust. For a child who has experienced trauma, these abilities are still being formed. Leadership can only grow once that foundation is steady.

Ways to engage this stage

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